“takot na ko magmahal..i know na masasaktan lang ako…” so goes the message from my friend…

MeatMarket’s latest entry goes: “Can you really walk out of a relationship unscathed? If so, how? If not, how many times do you have to be hurt to give up on gambling your heart?”

love love love and all that hullabaloo…

if we know for a fact that loving someone entails that we will somehow get hurt by the person we love then why, for Hell’s sake, still go through it over and over and over again like a masochist shouting “more pain, dammit! moooooreee!”

beats me, dude.


i don’t think i’m the best person to ask about such things…

in matters of the heart, i’m not a subject matter expert.

but here’s my singko na butas worth of thoughts…love and pain they go together. one cannot exist w/o the other. it has always been that way and always will be…if we can love someone w/o the pain that would be just swell…but pain was teamed up with love to make it human…love in itself is an emotion that is overwhelming and divine…it is an emotion that will consume you and push you to the highest heaven and deepest hell…pain is there to keep your feet on the ground. it teaches you that what you have now may be fleeting. it teaches you that love w/o sacrifice is not love at all…it teaches you that love cannot be contained but instead should be like a stream flowing steadily through every bend and rock it encounters until it finds it final destination..it teaches you to treat every day as if its your last because you never know what tomorrow brings..it teaches you to suck the very marrow of life until it yields to you its very essence….pain or at least the feeling of being and getting hurt remind us that we are humans…that in this big and crazy world we need people to make our life’s journey interesting and colorful…

there is no one that I know of who have emerged from a relationship unscathed or unharmed but may it be a deep gash or a life threatening wound, I know that we will still love someone or something as we go through our miserable lives. I know that though we profess to never love again we know that the only bandage that’ll soothe our hurting heart or the only medicine that will ease our pain is love…that i know for sure.

i have loved and lost many times in my life and still I am loving…or at least trying to. and it’s not because I love the feeling of pain or being hurt..GAWD No!…but it’s because despite all of the pain I’ve gone through and all of the tears that I’ve cried, my heart still longs for that one person who will love me ~faithfully and enduringly…it’s because my heart still yearns for its better half..its because despite the cynicism in the world I still want to love and be loved in return…yes even with pain…

kung hindi ka nasasaktan ibig sabihin hindi ka totoong nagmamahal. Kung naghihintay ka nang kapalit sa pagmamahal na binibigay mo ibig sabihin hindi ka totoong nagmamahal. Ang tunay na pagmamahal hindi naghihintay ng kapalit. binibigay ang pagmamahal ng walang kapalit. ng walang hinihintay na pagmamahal in return. it may be masakit but its true. it may be corny but its true. ayaw mong masaktan pero nagmamahal ka? Nagmamahal ka kaya ka nasasaktan.

“Tell your heart that the fear of suffering is worse than the suffering itself. And that no heart has ever suffered when it goes in search of its dreams, because every second of the search is a second’s encounter with God and with eternity.”

– Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist-


Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: