I read this question in Rei’s blog: bakit kung sino pa ang mga nanloko sila pa ang masaya ngayon???
bakit nga ba??? bakit nga ba??? BBAAAAAKKKEEEETTT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
All I wanted was to love and to be loved in return…mahirap ba yun?
This is all I ever wanted:
“The wonderings of all women: what must it be like to be loved? What must it be like to look into the eyes of a lover and sees only you and finds in you all that he has dreamed of for his life ‘s mate.”
When you are not happy where you are and you are not quite sure if you want to leave or how to leave, you are in the meantime. It’s a state of limbo. You are hanging on, ready to let go, afraid to fall, not wanting to hurt yourself, afraid you will hurt someone else. In the meantime, you pray the other person will let go first so that you will not feel guilty.
The other person keeps dropping hints, letting you know that it’s time to go. You deny it! Why? You don’t know why, but I can tell you that the meantime is fraught with don’t knows and can’t do’s. Don’t know why I can’t go. Don’t know why I should stay. Don’t know where I’m going. Don’t know how I am going to get there, wherever there is. Ambivalence, confusion, reluctance, and paralysis are all characteristics of the meantime. If you
knew the answers to these questions you would be just fine. In the meantime, you are many things, fine is probably not one of them!
Life would be so much easier if, when we hit a snag in a relationship, any relationship, we would stop, address it, and move ahead smoothly. The truth is, in most cases, we could do just that. The reality is, we don’t do it! We keep moving. We allow little insults to become raging angers, little arguments to become festering feuds, little pains to become deep wounds, and
we keep moving. In many cases, we keep hurting. When the relationship at issue is an intimate, loving one, the attempt to move forward without addressing the pain only complicates matters, further poisoning the relationship.
How can I stay and not get hurt? How can I go without hurting? You cannot answer these questions if you are in pain. What you can do is make the effort to discover the truth about love, because it is the only thing that can help you move through the experience. In the meantime, if we can remain loving of ourselves and toward other people by staying in conscious and honest communication, a disruption, snag, or delay in a relationship becomes a healing process. When we cannot, we engage in meantime behavior — hurting, fighting, not telling the truth, and moving forward in confusion. Confusion begets confusion.