Got this from Femalenetwork’s newsletter:
Divine Secrets Of The Pinay Sisterhood:
She wants girlfriends to hold her hands. That line from the book Divine Secrets Of The YaYa Sisterhood is probably one of those that tell how much a woman needs to have her friends around. Indeed, where would you be if you didn’t have a fabulous gang of girlfriends in your life?
This month, Cosmo gives you a gal-pal manual to help you keep your friendship alive with your best buds.
DIVINE SECRET #1: Friends are everywhere.
Be open to new opportunities. New technologies (that’s Friendster to you!) and avenues are springing up left and right, allowing you to meet new interesting people beyond your ordinary social circles. Try joining more non-office activities, like being a member of a nearby gym, a charity group, or even an egroup dedicated to a particular hobby or theme.
DIVINE SECRET #2: Friends help you live longer.
We’ve all known secretly that friends are way better (and cheaper!) than going to a shrink or spending thousands of pesos on expensive aromatherapy massages and treatments. But a UCLA study actually discovered that when women run to their friends to distress, they produce higher levels of a hormone called oxytocin, which further counters stress and produces a calming effect.
DIVINE SECRET #3: Friends (and family) should always come first.
Yes, yes, we all know that you’re a modern woman, capable of holding her own among the men—but that doesn’t mean that you should commit the same mistakes they do. While work should be an essential part of your life, it shouldn’t mean that you should place it as your number one priority.
***I have been priveleged enough to find good friends…it’s like finding diamonds in dustheaps…I have been truly truly blessed!***
Last night, went out with a friend that I haven’t seen for the looonnngggeesssttt time…and of course, we made kwento kwento about what happened na to us and our so called life for past year or so…when I started to make kwento about what happened to me and A…something weird happened..well not really weird..just magulo…i kinda felt na parang I dunno what happened to us …ayan pati ako naguluhan…before when I make kwento about what happened to me and A, I’d remember every fucking detail that happened…i still remember pa din naman but this time…medyo parang I have to think na what I have to make kwento e before tuloy tuloy lang kwento ko…weird? maybe I just made another step to recovery road…and I think I have…I’m better now..much better..I still love him and yes, i do miss him pa din..but I don’t cry na..I don’t think about him and what happened that much anymore…basta I’m on highway recovery and I’m on its fastest lane…so here I come dah-lings…
Carrie: Maybe the past is like an anchor holding us back. Maybe, you have to let go of who you were to become who you will be.
Come on, let’s reason together
By Dr. Harold J. Sala
“For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.”- Matthew 6:14, 15
To forgive someone doesn’t mean you give in, that you capitulate in weakness. But it does mean, in simple terms, that you pull the knife out of your own stomach. Instead of
turning yourself inside out with bitterness, you release the bitterness which has been gnawing at your innards, and you allow the process of healing to begin.
Long ago God held out the olive branch of peace to those who had wilfully and knowingly
turned against Him. He invited them to stop and reason, to think, stressing the fact that to give and accept forgiveness is not only reasonable, it is the only path to healing and restoration. Here’s the famous text found in Isaiah 1: “Come now, let us reason together,’ says the Lord. ‘Though your sins are like scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they are red as crimson, they shall be like wool. If you are willing and obedient, you will eat the best from the land; but if you resist and rebel, you will be devoured by the sword” (Isaiah 1:18-20).
Wrongdoing or the extent of it isn’t the issue. Ok, you were wronged. “Come, now,” God
says, “let’s reason together.” Have you ever wondered why people refuse to forgive, why
they hold on to bitterness that becomes a cancer that eats them away? Medical research has
provem conclusively that people who are free of bitterness and anger live longer, enjoy
life more, and are more free of hang-ups than those who refuse to forgive. There is no
logic in living with bitterness.
Long ago the writer of Proverbs said, “There’s a way that looks harmless enough; look
again–it leads straight to hell” (Proverbs 16:25, the message). The way that often seems
right from a human standpoint is the way of revenge, of getting even. Jesus talked about the way that is straight and narrow, which leads to life, and the path that is wide, the
well-travelled one, that leads to death. It’s your choice.
Releasing bitterness, giving up your right to hurt someone because that person hurt you,
is not only good for your health, but also good for your heart and soul as well. Frankly, the best way to deal with those who hurt you is to forgive them, love them, and let God deal with them in His way, and in His time. Paul’s statement, “‘Vengeance is mine; I will repay,’ says the Lord” is not idle chatter.
Have you forgiven the one who hurt you? Jesus said that unless we forgive others, our
Father in heaven will not forgive us. So just in case, since you are possibly less than
entirely saintly yourself, better learn to forgive. Say it, write a letter, make a telephone call–whatever is necessary–just do it. You’ll be the winner when you do. – Resource Reading: Luke 16:1-13